Why You Feel Like an Imposter and What to do About It.
About 70% of people experience imposter syndrome at some point in their lives and you might not be surprised to know that women experience it more than men.
As a female entrepreneur you know exactly what this feels like.
The feeling shows up when you're reaching for a new goal or you're in a new role and trying to level up in your business or personal life.
In those times, the voice in your head sounds something like this,
"They're going to find out that I really don't know what I'm doing., I'm really not qualified. And when they do, I'm going to be exposed, and I'm going to fail and everybody's going to know it, and I'll be embarrassed."
Can you relate?
Imposter Syndrome is this underlying feeling of not good enough and that somehow everything that I've achieved so far in my life is just luck. I'm not who they think I am.
Underlying negative limiting beliefs acquired in childhood are what usually drives imposter syndrome which makes it hard to overcome.
If you allow this feeling to go unchecked, imposter syndrome can have extreme consequences on your work, relationships and how you feel about yourself everyday.
My client, Donna, confessed that this feeling has stopped her from moving forward and growing her business even though she needs the potential income her business will bring in. The belief that she isn't enough and the worry of being found out and rejected is so strong that she was sacrificing her financial security rather than confront her belief and fear.
When I first started my business, I experienced the same thing. The first time I coached a client I was terrified. "Oh my gosh, wait till they find out that I don't really know what I'm doing and I just took all this money. Should I have taken this money? Maybe I should just give it back."
Now occasionally, imposter syndrome can have a positive effect.
You might have a drive to prove that you are good enough, which makes you work harder and be more focused on success. But usually your underlying limiting belief about yourself will trigger unhelpful feelings and action.
paralyzed because there's a fear that you're going to be exposed as not good enough or
you just give up and feel like you won't be able to perform so might as well quit now.
The other extreme is to work to your limit until you're exhausted and depleted so that you never enjoy any success you do achieve. Your life is completely out of balance.